My wife and I just had another lively discussion today. We’ve had a lot of those already and there are many more coming. One thing my dad always told us was,
“Make sure you marry a woman who’ll fight back. Coz you’re not always right.”
Well, I sure followed his instructions in that area.
I appreciate my wife for speaking up, but it can be very tiring when we’re both emotional. We’ve gotten better lately, especially with the learning how to fight fair thing. We still argue, but at least there are rules, kinda like the evolution of the UFC from the backwater illegal fight club to the organized, fastest-growing sport it is now.
Every once in a while though, we have those that we can’t fix right away. Fortunately, we have an ace up our sleeve – Paolo and Jen Punzalan. They’re our friends from church who we’ve gone to for advice since we started dating. Another helpful piece of advice we heard, and one that we always share with young couples who ask, is
Find a mature couple who you both feel comfortable approaching.
It’s helped us break stalemates, come to an agreement, and understand each other better. And this was no different. Of course, it wasn’t an instant or easy process. It took a willingness to open up, humility to hear correction, and empathy to discover the other person’s side. We really appreciate their openness with us also, explaining their own shortcomings and how they overcame them through the years. As always, we left encouraged, united, and ready to go jump into life together again.